What No One Tells You About Adoption, 11/19/2019
Adoption is a life changing experience that can positively impact the lives of everyone involved. However, everyone’s adoption process is different. Here are five things not commonly shared about adoption.
You may fall in love instantly, but the child may not.
Everyone dreams of love at first sight. While you may instantly love your adoptive child, they may not reciprocate those feelings immediately. Remember, this child will have mixed emotions about their new home and it may take a while for them to process their feelings. With time and patience, your child may learn to love their new surroundings and family.
The child may want to seek their birth family.
As the child ages, there is a possibility that they will want to seek their birth family. This is a natural feeling and one that you should prepare yourself for. Consider your feelings around your child engaging with their birth family and what that process would look like.
Don’t expect a “thank you.”
While your decision to adopt is undoubtedly commendable, you may not receive a verbal “thank you” from your adopted child. Remember that your child is a victim of circumstance. They did not ask for the life they lived before being placed in your home. Being patient and providing the love and safety they deserve will give them a feeling of gratitude, even if not outwardly expressed.
You may question yourself.
There will be times during the adoption process when you ask yourself, “Am I making the right decision? Will the child adapt well? Will my family be open to receiving a new child?” There will be times when you will question your decision. Your adoption caseworker will be able to help you navigate your feelings. Ultimately, if you have love in your heart and a safe home environment, you are saving a child’s life.
Build your support network.
It truly takes a village to raise a child, and an adoptive child is no different. It will be vital for you to have a strong support system to help you through this process. Your case manager, family, friends, and fellow adoptive parents will be great resources for emotional support and valuable information to help you through the process.
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